Pehla pyaar aur overthinking ka experience college life me kaise intense hota hai. Seekho kaise manage kare apne emotions aur mental peace maintain kare.
Table of Contents
- College Life Aur Friendship
- Offer Karne Ka Din
- Friendship Aur Drama
- First Kiss Aur Pyaar Ka Ehsaas
- Jab Pehli Baar Call Aayi
- Overthinking Ka Loop
- Jab Reality Samne Aayi
- College Life Aur Emotional Roller Coaster
- Seekhna Aur Grow Karna
- Conclusion
College Life Aur Friendship
College ke shuru mein mere ek friend the, jinki pehle se girlfriend thi. Usne mujhe bola:
“Yaar, tu hi hai apne group mein jiske paas girlfriend nahi hai. Koi offer kar de, tu select kar le.”
Maine sharmate hue haan kar diya aur humne decide kiya 5-6 ladkiyon ko approach karenge. Main bas select kar leta aur offer deta. Kal subah hum college mein tayyar hue, hair set ki aur excitement se bharpoor, kyunki pehli baar main kisi ladki ko approach karne jaa raha tha.https://post.edu/blog/making-friends-in-college-tips-for-building-meaningful-connections/?utm_source=chatgpt.com
Offer Karne Ka Din
Humne us ladki ke peeche khade ho kar plan follow kiya. Mere dost ne bola, “Tere bande peecha khade hai.” Main confuse tha, socha koi aur khada hoga.
Jaise hi maine approach kiya, ladki thodi surprised aur shy lag rahi thi.
Maine finally bola:
“I like you, aur main tumhare saath relationship karna chahta hoon.”
Woh sochne lagi, aur maine politely bola:
“Take your time, ek din le lo.”
Woh finally haan bol gayi aur main khud bhi khushi se bhar gaya.
Friendship Aur Drama
Mere dost ne sabko bata diya ki maine offer kar diya hai. Ladki ke friends aur mere dost ke friends involved ho gaye, jisse kaafi drama hua.
Ladki ka boyfriend bhi upset ho gaya, 21 cigarettes continuous pee gaya aur gussa dikha. Maine try kiya samjhane ka, lekin unhone overreact kiya.
Fir bhi, ladki aur main daily milte rahe. Call karna sharm aati thi, lekin milte rehna aur interactions se gradually comfort aur bonding ban gayi.
First Kiss Aur Pyaar Ka Ehsaas
College ke dinon mein, ek park mein ladki ne first time kiss kiya. Poore body mein electric feeling aayi—kuch alag hi experience tha.
Uske baad hum regular milne lage, lips kiss aur smooch ke saath. Pyaar ka yeh naya ehsaas tha, aur main genuine love aur respect ke saath relationship maintain karna chahta tha.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-science-of-love/201210/the-very-first-kiss-momentous-or-disastrous?utm_source=chatgpt.com
Jab Pehli Baar Call Aayi
Yaad hai, jab maine usse pehli baar call kiya… wo thodi shy thi, par baatein aise start hui jaise hum dono ka connection kaafi gehra ho gaya ho. College ke corridors me uski muskaan dekh ke lagta tha sab kuch perfect hai.
Lekin pehle week me hi mera overthinking mode start ho gaya:
- “Agar usne mujhe call nahi kiya toh kya hua?”
- “Agar wo busy hai, kya matlab hai?”
Bas aise hi choti baaton par mind ghoomta rehta tha.
Overthinking Ka Loop
Relationship jitna starting me acha lagta hai, utna hi kharab poore life me ho sakta hai agar overthinking ka loop start ho jaye. Main khud 24 ghante bas uske baare me sochta rehta tha, chahe wo khana khate hue ho, chahe class me ho, chahe bathroom me ho… mind hamesha ussi ke around ghoomta rehta tha.
Har choti baat, har pause, har unsent message… sabka matlab dimag me analyze hota rehta tha. Ye overthinking spiral aage aur aage badh jata hai, jahan aap apni happiness ke liye dependent ho jate ho kisi aur ke signals par.https://khuljamind.com/overthinking-2/
Jab Reality Samne Aayi
Pehle month me hi pata chal gaya ki sab perfect nahi hai. Wo kabhi kabhi busy hoti, kabhi baatein short kar deti… aur mera mind turant panic mode me chala jata.
Ek din, bina kisi warning ke, call aayi: “Maa gaon ja rahi hai.” Bas… itna hi. Simple si baat, par mere dimaag me 1000 alag-alag scenarios ban gaye:
- “Kya matlab hai ye?”
- “Kya maine kuch galat kiya?”
- “Kya ab hum dono ke beech distance aa gaya?”
College Life Aur Emotional Roller Coaster
College life me pehla pyaar ek roller coaster ki tarah hai. Kabhi high, kabhi low. Har choti baat emotional trigger ban jati hai. Overthinking me fass jaane par, dimaag kabhi bhi relax nahi karta.
Symptoms:
- Sleep problems
- Anxiety
- Choti baaton par tension
Mera case bhi kuch aisa hi tha. Har din ka routine bas uske messages aur reactions ke around ghoomta. Lecture me dhyan nahi, assignments incomplete, aur social circle se thoda distance ban gaya.
Seekhna Aur Grow Karna
Pehla pyaar sirf feelings ka naam nahi, learning ka bhi naam hai. Overthinking aur anxiety ke loops se nikalna seekhna part of life hai.
Maine kuch hacks adopt kiye:
- Focus apni studies aur hobbies par shift karna
- Journaling aur feelings ko likhna, mind clear karne ke liye
- Choti-choti activities aur friends ke saath time spend karna
- Emotional triggers ko recognize karna aur unhe logically analyze karna
Conclusion
Pehla pyaar aur overthinking dono ek saath aate hain, aur college life ke emotions ko aur intense banate hain. Agar aap apni emotional health pe dhyan rakhen aur overthinking loop se bahar nikalna seekh jaaye, toh pehla pyaar ek amazing learning experience ban sakta hai.
College ke corridors me jo butterflies feel hoti hain, wo kabhi khatam nahi hoti—bas ye seekhna hota hai ki unhe handle kaise kare aur apni mental peace kaise maintain kare.
Call To Action
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